Jim and I had been praying and preparing for our wedding day for about a year before it actually happened. It was clear on the day that it had been fully paved in prayer in all the details. There was no drama, no disasters.
We had opted not to go through Royal Caribbean’s wedding people for several reasons. Mainly because we wanted our day to be a little different than what they offered and felt that going a different route would allow us the ambiguity that we desired. Really it was the best decision we could have made! Sure, it required more work from us but in the end we had the day we had been praying for.
As he turned the corner and saw me his young face lit up, he covered his mouth but the smile was still in his eyes..his Mama was a princess that day. I wish I had a picture of that moment, but my memory will have to make due for the absence of a photograph. As Noah walked over to me I noticed he suddenly somehow seemed taller, older, and ready to walk me down the aisle. We had been waiting and praying for this day for awhile now.
Diane and Ashlyn went ahead of us. Leading the way. As the room came into view Noah whispered to me “I got you, Mama.” I think others were there too, but really all I remember is walking with Noah, seeing my handsome Zackaree, and then seeing my Jim! I thought I would be nervous or something but in that moment I was so peaceful inside. I knew I was where I was supposed to be and that this moment was part of God’s design for us.
The ceremony flowed. Our Pastor spoke words of love and wisdom, reminding us of God’s design and purpose for marriage.
We wrote our own vows, but perhaps “wrote” should be a loose term as I did not write anything down. I tried. I cried. I tried again. His were perfect! So genuine and sweet.
Jim and I decided that as a family with the boys we should do a Unity Sand Ceremony during the wedding. God being the foundation to our marriage and home, His was the white sand on the bottom, our foundation. Next, a little of Jim(blue) and a little of me(pink, of course) and then both of us pouring together our own colors so they intertwined. The kids were last (yellow). After we had finished adding all the sand our Pastor prayed with us. As he told the boys they could go back to their spots I noticed each of their faces: Zack’s was red and a blotchy from tears and Noah had the biggest smile.
As we planned our day Jim and I both felt that it was important that we share Communion during the ceremony. I am so glad we chose to do this as for me it was one of the sweetest moments of the whole weekend.
At the end of the ceremony our Best Man Luis, prayed over us. He was so authentic and heartfelt. Ya’ll having praying friends is priceless!
As Pastor Sean prepared to tell Jim to kiss the bride I looked up and my goofy man was beaming and puckering up. He cracks me up!
Here are a few highlights from our day.
Our anniversary is October 17 which was a detail that I had mentally not wrapped my head around. I know that sounds ridiculous but it’s true! In all the planning we had been saying “The wedding will be on the 2nd day” and well I am a blonde and hadn’t even looked to see what the date was. I didn’t care about that date, I was marrying my best friend! A week before the wedding our Pastor was talking with us to finalize the plans. He causally mentioned the day and inside I almost died. When I was 5 the 17th of October took on a special meaning: it was Chad’s birthday. So maybe I hadn’t looked at a calendar because I didn’t want to deal with that, but I saw my brother that day in Noah’s dimpled smile and in the way my boy’s eyes sparkled like his did.