Parenting is no joke. Ups and downs; lefts and rights; forward and backwards all in the same two seconds. I constantly feel like I am just barely holding on. My natural reaction is to long for yesterday and worry about tomorrow, but I miss today when I do. I miss the precious moments where my teenager still wants me around. I miss the humor of a tween that often balances hilarity and beyond his years wisdom.
I don’t want to miss these things. I don’t want look back and not remember the todays. Several years ago I had caught the flu and was in bed for what felt like a month. In that time I don’t remember anything other than how sick I was. I don’t even remember feeding the kids! That’s what I am afraid of, I fear that my preoccupation with yesterday and tomorrow will make me forget the little things. Kids grow at a pace that is mind boggling to me! I truly feel like I can blink and they’ll be grown.
I am pretty sure I sound insane, but I am also pretty sure that every other parent feels (or have felt) the same way.
So, how do I make myself slow down and soak in the todays? How do I cherish memories, prepare for tomorrow and still bask in today?
Jesus said this: Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes. (Matthew 6:34 MSG)
Oh! Soak THAT in! Tomorrow is handled. Covered already in grace and ready for me!
Now, that frees me up considerably; I have room to stretch my legs and sit in today. My next question is: where am I today? Outside the typical day to day of school, chores and general life stuff my family is thriving. We are moving forward together. We’re closer than ever before! The boys are coming into their own selves, people that I am not only proud to have said I helped raise, but people I am proud to know. They are world changers. They are mastering the art of breathing deep and soaking in the experiences of life. They are far wiser than I will ever be. They are good and they are (for the most part) humble. They aren’t perfect. They can still cause a perfectly clean room to combust in a matter of seconds with backpacks, games and cards… cards EVERYWHERE. In an effort not to miss today we do a lot of family time.
We spend a lot of time talking and learning from each other. If I could suggest anything to another parent it’s that. Talk to them. Kids see and hear so much more than we are aware of.
My goal is to embrace each day joyfully. Even the messy ones. Even the ones that make me worry about tomorrow, remember tomorrow is handled.